Needed vs Wanted

Original post: October 20, 2021. Edited.

A long time ago, somewhere in the middle of my marriage, my husband said, “I don’t need you. I want you, but I don’t need you.”

I will never forget how that made me feel. Those words cut through my heart like a knife. It took my breath away and I felt worthless.

Being needed gives me purpose. Being wanted fulfills everything else.

Being needed is a huge part of who I am. I want to be needed. To say you don’t need me is almost like saying you don’t love me. It hurts like that.

Being wanted is wonderful. That’s where the beautiful part of a relationship lies. It is that special, intimate part of marriage, or the closeness in a friendship.

To complete me, I need to be both wanted and needed. That gives my life meaning and purpose. And I’m perfectly fine with desiring both in my life. It’s who I am.

I hope your day is good. Mine is. ♥️


4 thoughts on “Needed vs Wanted

  1. Hi Andi,
    When I search for a partner I want someone that wants me, but that doesn’t need me.
    I think that comes from me priding myself on not needing someone, but wanting someone.
    Thank you for pointing out another side of needing and wanting.
    Kudos for knowing what you need and want 🙂

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    1. And while I totally get not wanting to be needed, my makeup is a little different, I guess. It’s “safer” not being needed in some respect. If I heard the words, “Andi, I need you in my life because you make my world better”, I would absolutely melt. 😊♥️


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