As we travel through life, we encounter many decisions that need to be made each and every day. We base our decisions on a variety of factors. A decision might be made on what worked best in a similar situation. Some decisions might be based on advice from a trusted source. Sometimes they are based on feelings. Often decisions are made on a whim which we end up paying for later.
Whether we are figuring out what to base our decisions or relationships on, we have a tendency to gravitate towards things that feel familiar to us, whether it be certain types of people, situations, or places. Sometimes this can give us great peace while often it can turn our lives upside down.
Channeling toward things familiar often leaves us spiraling. And it’s not a good spiral.
A new relationship that seems familiar (often subconsciously) may give a sense of comfort, even if the familiarity is that of pain. I know that doesn’t seem to make sense but it can be very real.
When it comes to differentiating between a good, solid relationship from one that is not, is often confusing. I have a long history of choosing wrong (familiar) people to be a part of my life.
I write this post out of my own experiences. If you find that the new relationship or situation, seems amazing at first, only to fail painfully, it is time to evaluate the similarities between the past and present. Only then can you make the necessary changes. Maybe seeking the opposite of what you’re used to is what you actually need to search for.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
I had to reevaluate my life choices in hope of better, healthier outcomes. Things familiar often create a feeling of safety, when in reality they are far from being safe.
When something feels exceptionally good, comfortable, and safe, step outside of the circle and evaluate whether the situation reminds you of a time and place from your past…when it wasn’t.
♥️
Andi
Coffee with Andi 
was checking in Andi.
i know what you mean about these patterns, especially in the context of relationships. for some of us, the drive of what pulls us towards a set of traits is a cosmic mystery that only age and experience can articulate. for others, the clarity is often there after far less teachable experiences. perhaps the underpinnings of this is something within ourselves that yearns to have the unique experiences that the unique combination (over/underweighting) of those traits possess in a singular package.
nevertheless, a point comes into our lives when we can no longer expose ourselves to that outcome the way we used to have the endurance or safety mechanisms for and perhaps that’s just how life logically evolves. and people often have a bias against the “trying something different” approach because it just doesn’t fill that void of uncertainty that they need to make that move. but I’ve learned to believe in it, much like you. Not because I have the expectation that it will automatically lead me to some guaranteed better outcome. But that it will, in the very least, and with careful nuance allow me to sidestep the outcome that I have come to recognize as something I no longer want and no longer desire to make bandwidth in my life for.
good luck. hope you write again sooner rather than later.
Mike
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Thank you, Michael. I’m not gonna lie. I’m struggling to write. And very much so. I like the way I used to write. For some reason, I feel it’s changed and I’m not happy about it. I can’t pull up the inspiration like I used to. Actually, I didn’t have to pull it up at all. It was just as natural as eating and sleeping. It was a part of me. I’m trying to find it. Any advice would be much appreciated.
I have been run down physically. I’ve been struggling with pneumonia this summer, which I cannot explain or understand. And I’ve had trouble with my back and hip. Lots of pain.
Thank you ALWAYS, for your comments and especially for reading my writing. I’m seriously trying to get it back. Thank you, friend. 😊
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i hear you Andi. the combination of pain and the unexpected pneumonia can absolutely set the tone for weeks and months at a time. i hope it gets better – it’s like a prolonged sub-freezing weather snap that just manages to linger on and on but much worse.
with writing, i can also identify. i am amazed at how people like yourself can write complete posts and for as long as you have written. i’ve had to cap myself most times to three or four paragraphs and I still have to make an effort to do that.
and the thing is, i don’t want to rely on just taking photos and videos because i don’t want to turn the blog into a pseudo-instagram account.
i don’t know Andi, i hope both health and inspiration flow to us soon! sending healing spirits to you!
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Thank you for the inspiration, Michael. I started writing last night a little. Maybe I’ll post later today. I actually have written a couple of posts over the past couple of weeks but didn’t feel like they were good enough to publish. I’ll look them over. Thank you so much for your support. I hope you will feel inspired today. Enjoy this day. 😊
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