When you were young you may have fallen in and out of love often. As a young girl, I was in and out of love a lot. Probably daily. My hands were my love meters in school. Oh, how they would sweat when I was near someone I loved. And forget trying to talk to that boy. Nothing came out coherent. Much of my young years were spent being in love with singers and actors. I love John Denver. Bobby Sherman. Donny Osmond. David Cassidy. Mitch Vogel. No, Greg Brady. Wait, no…I love Mike from the Monkees. If someone made me feel warm and fuzzy, I was in love.
Love. Maybe we abuse that word just a little.
I suppose even today as an adult, we look for that feeling of warm and fuzzy when we attach love to that special person in our life. We base much of our life on feelings. While a feeling might be what draws us together in the first place, often it fades. While that warm and fuzzy is really great, love goes far beyond a feeling.
I ran across this quote and I have to agree. And I think if we spent less time looking at love as a feeling and more as a decision, relationships and marriages would last a lifetime. Of course, it takes both to be on the same page.
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.” ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
If your committed decision to love someone is packaged in the warm and fuzzy, you have hit the jackpot. But maybe though, that feeling comes automatically with the decision, promise, and devotion to love that particular person. I think perhaps it does.
My dad told me several years ago that at this age you won’t find that warm fuzzy feeling. He said it just doesn’t happen anymore. But I still believe that’s it’s possible in a beautifully committed relationship because you are finally at peace…and peace in your heart is pretty darn warm and fuzzy.
But then again…I am a romantic at heart. And a dreamer. And I have hope.
Wishing you a beautiful day. Be that someone’s warm and fuzzy. What a wonderful world we’d live in if the very foundation of society (home/ family) was sealed in true love. ♥️