When you were young you may have fallen in and out of love often. As a young girl, I was in and out of love a lot. Probably daily. My hands were my love meters in school. Oh, how they would sweat when I was near someone I loved. And forget trying to talk to that boy. Nothing came out coherent. Much of my young years were spent being in love with singers and actors. I love John Denver. Bobby Sherman. Donny Osmond. David Cassidy. Mitch Vogel. No, Greg Brady. Wait, no…I love Mike from the Monkees. If someone made me feel warm and fuzzy, I was in love.
Love. Maybe we abuse that word just a little.
I suppose even today as an adult, we look for that feeling of warm and fuzzy when we attach love to that special person in our life. We base much of our life on feelings. While a feeling might be what draws us together in the first place, often it fades. While that warm and fuzzy is really great, love goes far beyond a feeling.
I ran across this quote and I have to agree. And I think if we spent less time looking at love as a feeling and more as a decision, relationships and marriages would last a lifetime. Of course, it takes both to be on the same page.
“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.” ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
If your committed decision to love someone is packaged in the warm and fuzzy, you have hit the jackpot. But maybe though, that feeling comes automatically with the decision, promise, and devotion to love that particular person. I think perhaps it does.
My dad told me several years ago that at this age you won’t find that warm fuzzy feeling. He said it just doesn’t happen anymore. But I still believe that’s it’s possible in a beautifully committed relationship because you are finally at peace…and peace in your heart is pretty darn warm and fuzzy.
But then again…I am a romantic at heart. And a dreamer. And I have hope.
Wishing you a beautiful day. Be that someone’s warm and fuzzy. What a wonderful world we’d live in if the very foundation of society (home/ family) was sealed in true love. ♥️
3 thoughts on “The Warm & Fuzzy of Love”
I disagree with your dad, I believe that feeling can happen at our age, I think we tend to settle because we think we are running out of time trying to find it. Never give up, it can and will happen when you never expect it
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Warm & fuzzy love at 60 still exists. It’s just different
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I disagree with your late father also.
First Corinthians 13:4-13
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
It’s hard to express / have love when it’s not reciprocated. I had a birthday recently. One of many under 45. It was the first birthday, I was unable to talk to my mother. She lives in a world of love and peace, but she lacks understanding. It’s hard, but the trails we must go through in life, it is necessary. As in the verse 7, love always hopes.