Hard Things

Once in awhile you might just have to do something that is very difficult because it’s the right thing to do. Sometimes it’s about making several hard decisions all within a short period of time. And that can be both taxing and liberating.

Maybe it is because your heart hurts in the place where you are. It’s about realizing that it is more painful to be in a constant state of hopefulness, when there is absolutely no hope, than feeling the emptiness of walking away.

It could be because morally you can no longer enforce the policies that go against your heart and of the hearts who have been entrusted to your care. Although leaving breaks your heart.

It could be because you realize that those same ever-changing policies that must be obeyed (and enforced) are full of holes and inconsistencies. And by enforcing them you realize you’ve become part of the problem and not of the solution. Meanwhile, many suffer anguish, anxiety, loneliness, and depression under these same policies…all under guise of safety.

Maybe it is because your rights are being trampled on and chiseled away little by little by those who seem more powerful than you. It could be those within a private sector, or a large corporation, and through big, invasive government. It’s realizing you are a pawn in another’s agenda, and that you mean absolutely nothing to them and it is time to regain your voice.

It could be that you are being forced to do something to your own body, for the “sake and safety of all mankind”. And if you don’t, you are labeled as being unloving and uncaring for another human being…which could not be further from the truth.

It could be that your very breath has ceased and you’ve become a bot. Human in form, yet courage no longer runs through your veins. You finally realize its time to reclaim your life.

We all experience hard things. That is a rule of life. It’s knowing when to take action and when to remain silent. It should never be about compliance for the sake of not stirring already murky waters. If it’s wrong, it’s wrong. Even if you stand alone. It’s knowing how you need to live without jeopardizing who you are. Sometimes we have to make those difficult decisions which have the potential to separate us from friends, family, work, etc., for the sake of maintaining our moral values. If a situation doesn’t lift you and make you a better person, it’s probably worth examining a little closer. After all, you have to live with yourself until the day you die.

Love yourself enough to walk away when it’s time.

Love yourself enough to make necessary changes even if it means stepping off into the unknown.

Love yourself so you can love and care for others better.

There are probably numerous more scenarios that could be written here, but that’s all I’ve got today. Life is hard. There’s no denying that. It’s about making the necessary adjustments and changes once you realize there’s a problem.

Thank you for sharing coffee with me on this lovely “almost” fall morning.

Be grateful for when you finally realize the difficult changes that need to be made….and you make them. ♥️

Andi

Photos: sunrise, October 6, 2016; pretty flowers on a nature walk, September 19, 2020