Your Personal Floormat

Back in 2016, I was working for a florist. On November 1st of that year, my best friend of over 30 years passed away suddenly in her sleep. I was devastated.

Because I was so distraught, my boss allowed me to work in an area of the store where I wouldn’t have to talk to people. I simply couldn’t stop crying.

One of those days though was very busy and the store was filled with people. The phone wouldn’t stop ringing either. At one point no one was able to get the phone so I picked it up. Typically, I would answer by saying, “Eitel’s and Company, your personal florist. This is Andi. How may I help you?” But this time I picked up the phone and said, “Eitel’s and Company, your personal floormat….” I have no idea why that came out of my mouth, but I immediately started laughing. Thankfully, the customer laughed right along with me. It was pretty funny.

In another light, have you ever felt like someone’s personal doormat? You know…when you allow people to walk all over you. Perhaps it is because you have difficulty saying no. Or, maybe you feel obligated for whatever reason(s). Perhaps you are a doormat because you simply want to be liked and to fit in. Maybe you are like me in whom other’s place their confidence. But then they unload all their heaviness upon you and you absorb it like a sponge. And now you own it. That’s definitely me. Or, just maybe there is a strong presence in your circle who is kind of a bully. I’ve dealt with that before as well.

My advice to you…and myself, is don’t do that. This is about self-care and self-love. It’s not mean to disallow others from continually wiping their feet on you. For you to be the best you can be in this life you need to take care of you first, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

“If you don’t like being a doormat, then get off the floor.”

I used to think it was selfish and conceited to take care of myself first or even to love myself. I was terribly wrong. I was a hot mess for longer than I care to mention. So don’t think that way.

Today add self-care and self-love to your Honey Do list. Don’t pencil it in. Use permanent marker. ♥️

Andi