The Right One

Who is the right one? Is there such a person?

I’ve spent a lot of time over the years wondering who is the right one for me. After my divorce a decade ago, I was hell-bent on finding that one right person to complete me. To be my companion, confidant, soul mate.

I jumped into dating with both feet before taking any time to heal, of which I had much to do. Truthfully, I had no clue whatsoever how to be happy with myself or by myself. I thought I needed someone to make me happy.

I learned a lot from the dating scene. A lot of bad and some good. I did make several good friends. What I learned though is that the men are just as messed up as I am. I don’t mean that in a bad way. What I mean is that we all have this amazing amount of baggage. We carry with us all the hurt and pain from previous relationships. Our spirits are broken. Our trust, shattered. We truly are a broken people. And we are all super lonely. We want someone to walk into our life and make all the hurt go away…and for that new person to make us happy. You know…the right one.

So how does a broken person find the right broken person?

Well, it’s taken me forever to figure this out. But I have successfully figured it out. Now.

First, you pray about it hard. If you are honest, sincere, and open to God’s wisdom, He will show you that it’s not about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person. And becoming the right person isn’t necessarily about becoming the right person for someone else. It’s about becoming the right person for God.

Let God fill in the blanks as He sees fit. Once you realize that with God you are complete, the craving to find that Mr. or Mrs. Right isn’t as strong anymore. God knows what I need and want. But if it’s not in His plan, it’s not gonna be as happy as I might think or wish.

Right now, I’m going through a major refining. I am so grateful for another chance to hopefully get it right.

So who is the right one?

You are.

Get to know yourself. Get to know God. Let Him fill in the blanks…if there are any. ♥️


2 thoughts on “The Right One

  1. I’m married and find myself coming to accept that this is true even when you are in a relationship. You have to grow in your own self and relationship with God and not turn to others to fill whatever the voids are that we have.

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