I noted in my last post that I am still willing to learn the life lessons that God presents to me. Actually, I’m excited about learning.
I was taught a great lesson just this morning. A lesson in which I discovered myself to be in error concerning a topic I preached most of my adult life. I felt the quick, sharp pain of this realization in my heart. And I will admit my error wholeheartedly.
I just finished a personal Bible study on being single. It was a four-day devotional I found on YouVersion. Sometimes if I am doing a study on my own, I will finish it in a day. Today I finished days 3 and 4. Day 3 was a life changer for me.
I used to write often about the relationship of a husband and a wife. How they should complete each other. I’d write about my desire to be in a relationship with a man who would complete me and I, him.
But today I see how wrong I was in my thinking. We are not half of a person to be completed by another.
A quote from my study: God never said the halves will become one flesh. He said, “the TWO will become one flesh” (Mark 10:8 NIV).
Isn’t that a simple concept? Two complete beings come together. Not two halves. Why was this so hard for me to see all these years? God is the only one who completes us. Our significant other is a bonus, a gift.
Men and women are quite different and we compliment each other because of those differences. Our strengths and weaknesses balance out the relationship. God completes us as individuals. The union is blessed as two complete beings come together to build something spectacular. God’s design is perfect.
I had to share this thought with you today as I have spoken so many times about finding that someone to complete me. God never suggested that concept, ever. It’s funny how we can manipulate feelings, wishes, and dreams into our own reality and make it truth. Actually, it’s kinda scary.
3. Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart.
4. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man.
5. Trust in the Lord with all your heart,and do not lean on your own understanding.
6. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
7. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil.
8. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.
I have searched my whole life for someone to give me something that they cannot. How unfair to burden another with such a heavy load of expectation and demand. Give me completeness. That’s just an impossible request.
Find your completeness in God. Don’t expect someone to give to you what you cannot give to them. ♥️
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