Needed vs Wanted

A long, long time ago, somewhere in the middle of my marriage, my husband said, “I don’t need you. I want you, but I don’t need you.”

I will never forget how that made me feel. Those words cut through my heart like a knife. They took my breath away and made me feel weak.

Being needed gives me purpose. Being wanted gives me everything else.

I am a very capable woman although I do have a weak, fragile side. But being needed is a huge part of who I am. I want to be needed. To say you don’t need me is almost like saying you don’t love me.

Being wanted is wonderful. That’s where the beautiful part of a relationship lies. It is that special, intimate part of marriage or the closeness of a friendship.

To complete my personal circle of life, I need to be wanted and needed. That gives my life meaning and purpose. And I’m perfectly fine with desiring both in my life. It’s who I am.

I hope your day is good. Mine is. ♥️

Andi

3 thoughts on “Needed vs Wanted

  1. Reminds me of clinginess. A lot of guys hate clingy with a passion. I never understood that… if she’s clinging it can only mean that she loves you and is trying to keep the relationship together.
    Of course, I was the clingy one 🙄

    I too need to feel needed. In my opinion, being needed is being wanted. Even in friendship and blogs.

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